Thoughts About Self Care and Competition

A friend recently asked me “how often do you write?” To which I responded, “not enough.”

We’d been talking about how everyone everyone has been a little obsessed with Lady Gaga at some point. He mentioned that he liked how she’s unobjectively herself. I mentioned that I really appreciate that she’s learned how to be herself without having to be forceful about it (I wasn’t a fan of her during her meat dress faze, to say the least). You can be yourself without throwing yourself into a random party outfit generator each morning. You can be quirky and not have your outfit scream to the world that this is who you are. There is courage in doing that, yes, but there’s also courage in being firm in who you are without having to prove it to the world. And I think that’s where Gaga is now.

Getting back to the point: I was analyzing the evolution of her lyrics with my friend as we drove to dinner. Not to be cocky, but I could overanalyze anything. One could call it my hubris. But tonight, it worked out in my favor. My friend started asking me about my writing. Now, I love to talk about loving to write and all the plans I have for novels that aren’t going to go anywhere and how I used to perform slam poetry blah blah blah, but this conversation, for whatever reason, made me realize that I wasn’t doing what I loved as often as I thought I was. 

I created a motto for myself this school year: Do more of what makes you happy. By not making the time to write, am I not following my motto? By making the time to write but not writing what I am really passionate about, is that also breaking my motto? Sadly, I think so. It’s not that I am intentionally depriving myself of some mental need to obtain joy via the written word (*insert sarcastic eye roll here*), it’s that I am missing out on extra joy because I subconsciously internalize my want to produce literature. I don’t make time for writing, other than my blog, because I feel like there are so many better, more productive things to be doing. I could be studying for tests, or reading for bookclub, or calling my parents. I could do my laundry, cook real food for dinner, or vacuum. It feels like there are a thousand more important things in my life right now. But more important to whom?

That’s the catch right there.

I care how people perceive me. I overanalyze it to the point of lunacy. There’s this little voice in my head telling me that if someone caught me spending an hour a day writing for pleasure I would be stripped deserving the titles I have. If I spent an hour a day relaxing by planning out my next novel instead of preparing for Homecoming or reading over my UGA tour notes or creating guides for my next-to-impossible biology exams someone is bound to say that I don’t work hard enough for what I have.

I know I’m not the only one that looks at the things that make me happy and push them to the side because there are “more important” things to do. Part of this, from what I can tell, stems from how competitive my graduating class is. I remembering being in high school where people would brag about not sleeping for days, or using Adderall to stay awake long enough to do weeks worth of homework in a single stretch. I didn’t want to participate in things like that, so I did what I could to keep my grades up and still be a functioning human being. I got into college and that same thing kept going on and on and on. I’m even friends with people that still post on social media each time they’re up in the library past 2 am studying for a test. It’s a competition to prove that you’re the best student because you work the hardest, and it’s not healthy.

We, the collegiate millinials, have an unhealthy competitive edge (that’s probably going to lead us to early graves if I’m being honest). We care too much, and because we care we work to impress others (whether others actually care or not) rather than to fulfill ourselves. I am not asking everyone to become self involved workaholics. I am simply stating that doing self-fulfilling tasks with the fervor you put into your studies and extracurriculars would be a nice change of pace. So, instead of glorifying not sleeping or studying until you nearly collapse, let’s glorify doing things for not other reason than that they make us happy.

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Target’s Hit the Target

I love Target. It is my happy place. I don’t always go to Target to window shop, but since coming to college wandering the aisles there seems easier and more accessible than anywhere else. Not to mention affordable.

Because it’s close to Christmas, I’ve been scouting all the options for potential gifts. I love people watching, as use that as a way to judge what styles are in fashion, what people love, and what colors are popular. I’m not usually the person that goes for the name brand stuff (except J. Crew…I’ll always love J. Crew), but a few items have recently caught my eye. And, fortunately, I found a few of those items on the racks at Target the other day.

Splurge:

Fossil’s Emma RFID Multifunction Mini Wallet $50

Fossil Red Velvet Wallet

Steal:

Target’s Women’s Small Zip-Around Wallet $10

Target Red Wallet

I’ve had my eye on the Fossil wallet since summer and was over the moon to find a matching one in Target. The one I purchased is turquoise!

Splurge:

Anthropologie Indigo Rain Mug $24

Anthropologie Indigo Rain Mug

Steal:

Target’s Robert Gordon Indigo Brush Mugs, Set of Four $20

Target Indigo Mug Set

Splurge:

Kate Spade Poppy Fit and Flare Dress $448

Kate Spade Fit and Flare Dress

Steal:

Target’s Women’s Mesh Lace Fit & Flare Dress $28

Target Fit and Flare Dress

While the lace elements are different, the dress shape and overall texture are very similar.

Splurge:

J. Crew Boy’s Ludlow Blazer in Velvet $140

J. Crew Ludlow Blazer in Velvet

Steal:

Target’s Toddler Boys’ Velvet Blazer $18

Target Boy's Corduroy Blazer

Splurge:

Superga Velvet Grey Sneakers $119

Superga Velvet Sneakers

Save:

Target’s Women’s Savannah Velvet Sneakers $20

Target Velvet Sneakers

Not exactly the same color, but personally I actually like the blue a lot better!

There are probably a lot more items from Target that are nearly identical to name brand clothes and accessories, I just haven’t seen them yet. Have you noticed any?

My Life: October

October was crazy. I had three weeks of midterms, Delta Gamma Initiation, Homecoming, Delta Gamma Low Country Boil, Will’s 21st birthday, my mom’s birthday, and my roommate’s 21st birthday. It has been a month. But there’s only one thing left: Halloween! Whether or not I’ll actually celebrate is still undecided, but we’ll get there when we get there.

I went to the State Botanical Gardens of Georgia at the beginning of the month to complete a biology scavenger hunt. This was one of the required pictures I had to take.

Botanical Gardens

My little and grandlittle at Initiation

DG Initiation 2017

My parents came down for my Homecoming, the UGA v Mizzu football game

The Marshalls at UGA v Mizzu

During Homecoming week, coffee was a must

Coffee

I got to participate in Dawg Walk with the cheerleaders and football players

UGA Cheerleaders

Here’s the 2017 Homecoming Committee and Court!

Homecoming Committee and Court

And here I am on the jumbotron with the UGA President, the Homecoming Director, and the 2016 Homecoming King and Queen

Me on the UGA Jumbotron

We all saw my pumpkin patch fun in this post from the other day

Milledge Baptist Pumpkin Patch

A snap of me in the Fine Arts theater building after work one day

Lazy Day Work Outfit

A friend from outside my GA house

Georgia lizzard

 

I went home for fall break and look how much the leaves have changed!

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An “early” morning sun

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I walked to Starbucks and passed the building I (as a small child) wanted to live in when I grew up

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Home wouldn’t be the same without Chocolate!

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My tomato plants from this summer finally made tomatoes! And then were promptly killed by yesterday’s snowfall…

Baby tomatoes

Happy Halloween!

Beary Scary Halloween

xo Bailey

Re-Think Your Pumpkin Carving Scraps

I love a good pumpkin patch! And luckily my housemates do too!

Milledge Baptist Church Pumpkin Patch

We all went to the Milledge Avenue Baptist Church Saturday and found gourds galore. I found the perfect, small one right off the bat.

Pumpkin Patch in Athens GA

Burgundy Mock Turtleneck Dress

While I love carving pumpkins, I always feel bad that the insides go to waste. I also hate that the smaller pumpkins I put up as decoration simply get thrown out. So I did a little brainstorming and like magic came up with a few simple solutions:

Happy haunting!

Fun Things

It honestly feels like life is moving at fifteen mph above the speed limit.  It’s been one of those “please, for the love of everything sacred, slow down!” weeks. And it’s only Monday. But the good news is that the Internet is always helping me find cool ways to distract myself from how overwhelmed I actually am.

North Carolina Forest

Favorite Fall Things Right Now

I’m so excited that fall is finally here! And with fall comes UGA Homecoming! I don’t think I could ever express how thankful I am for all the opportunities the University of Georgia has given me. I’ve participated in Homecoming every single year of college. Last year I was the Community Outreach Chair, and this year I get to oversee all of Homecoming Court.

The University of Georgia has also given me the Arch Society. Not only have I found many of my close friends through Arch, I’ve gotten to meet some of the smartest, most driven individuals of my age. I am constantly amazed by their curiosity, selflessness, and intellect. Below are a few photos from our dinner at the President’s house. Arch President's House

While I don’t really enjoy football, getting to work the games with the Arch Society is a thrill. I may not know who all the players are but I certainly love the Dawg Nation spirit!

Fall also means getting my grand little!

And who would I be if I didn’t mention something from Target’s current dollar spot section? Of course it was love at first sight with this Hocus Pocus inspired candle!

Hocus Pocus Candle

Now that the weather is finally cooling down (okay, so, it’s still mid to upper 70’s in Athens…we’ll just go ahead and count it as “cooling down”) I can drink tea throughout the day without being hot and sweaty on both the outside and the inside. I really like drinking Throat Coat tea when the Freshman Plague rolls around. I get sick easily, and it always ends up involving my throat, so this tea really helps decrease the inflammation and irritation caused by both allergies and sickness. Plus each tea bag comes with a little inspirational quote! How cute.

Inspirational Tea Quote

Last but certainly not least, I’m excited to finally be able to wear boots again. These are my current favorites: Lucky Brand black booties.

Lucky Brand Black Booties

Owning a Dog Can Improve Your Life

Happy National Dog Week everyone!

For me, every week is National Dog Week. Just think about it: my university’s mascot is a bulldog, my sorority raises guide dogs, and I own two rescue pups. Everywhere I go I’m surrounded by dogs.

Not only are dogs are a great source of joy for many people, they can also be good for your health.

puppyspot_dogs_health_2000px I don’t raise guide dogs myself, but my little Rachel and Ashley, one of my best friends (and sorority house roommate from last year), do. The Guide Dog Foundation, where most, if not all, guide dogs in training on the campus of the University of Georgia come from, raises dogs for the blind. They go through intensive training, socializing (my favorite part – playing with the puppies!), and final exams before they head out into the real world ready to help their new owners live a more independent life.

Dogs are also great for getting in some exercise each day! I love walking my pups when I go home on break to see them. Seeing them happily trotting around the neighborhood makes me happy. It’s a win-win for everyone!

My mom also considered training our bigger dog, Boo, to be a therapy dog. My mom worked in hospitals and medical centers for many years and got to see therapy dogs at work first hand. Dogs seem to know exactly who needs some love!

What are some of the ways your dog has enhanced your life?