Things I Wish I Could Go Back and Tell Freshman Year Me

The best four years of my life are coming to a close this Friday. I’m graduating from the University of Georgia with a B.S. in Psychology, with an emphasis in neuroscience, and a minor in Art History. I’ll be heading off to Macon, Georgia in July to start law school at Mercer with a full ride. I should feel ecstatic about this next chapter of my life, but now that I’m here all I want to do is rewind.

My parents always told me that I would enjoy college. They told me I would find my people, people just like me that were cool with being uncool and didn’t mind if all I wanted to talk about was the news or science facts or cats. I didn’t believe them. Middle school and high school had been so awful that I didn’t believe that any form of school could be okay, much less actually enjoyed. I wish I had listened to them. I went into my freshman year cautious, guarded, and terribly shy. I wanted to make new friends because I was lonely, but I was so scared being bullied or hated that I really struggled with actually connecting with people. Four years later and I could become BFF’s with just about anyone. I re-learned that the world is full of good intentions, but not always good people, and that’s okay. Being kind and open will get you much further than being cautious.

I’ve never been good at math and science, or at least not as good at that as I am at writing. My parents always encouraged me to follow my passion, but I was dead set on having a career that would allow me to make enough money to support a family. I chose science as a freshman because I saw the potential for a safety net – I could go to school and do just okay and still end up making enough money to be considered successful. Three semesters into my science courses and I was calling my dad, in tears, on a monthly basis because I hated my classes so much. The one thing I learned from this? Do something you’re good at for a career, and save the stuff that makes you happy for your weekends. Science fills me with wonder and excitement, but taking science classes made me want to pull my hair out. I just flat out wasn’t good at them, so I didn’t enjoy them. It made science feel like a chore rather than an ambition. You might disagree with me here, but my advice is to never let the thing that brings you joy become your day job, because then it feels like a chore.

Walking into college, I decided that I wasn’t here to have fun, I was here to make a career for myself. I was so driven. I wanted to work in a lab and have internships with the CDC and go places. Only in my junior year did I actually stop myself and say “hold up, I have the rest of my life to work, but if I go out with friends or wake up early to watch the sunrise instead of applying for a second job I’m going to have so much more fun”. Junior year I changed my mindset, added a minor that made me happy, stopped freaking out about adulthood, got an internship in something that wasn’t science, decided on going to law school instead of getting my Ph. D. (still might happen one day, though), and started living. Wow. Not only did my quality of life improve, my grades did too.

Now that my undergrad life is coming to a close I’m beginning to realize how much I have truly loved this chapter in my life. I’m glad I embraced it, even though it took a few semesters. As I head off into law school I am reminded of how lucky I am that I have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

Go Dawgs!

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The One Where Things Get Political

News flash: this is not a lighthearted episode of Friends, but rather my hot take of certain political tidbits popping up in my life right now that I think are important to discuss, namely the video of the University of Georgia TKE brothers that has been circulating on Twitter.

I don’t often get political on this platform (or on social media in general, save for this post from after the 2016 election). I try to keep things offline and have conversations face to face. That being said, our conversational world is changing. People are taking to social media and other outlets more and more when discussing important things like racism, capitalism, the GOP, etc. I don’t think there’s anything inherently right or wrong about that. It’s just how my generation, and the generations around mine, think and act and see and do. It’s how we interact with the world. We are both distancing ourselves from these topics while also bringing them closer to home. And that leaves me here.

I’m saddened and disgusted by what has happened at my university this month. It hurts to see us on the news for something that doesn’t reflect who we are. I came to UGA because everyone was nice to me. Being a white female, I haven’t experienced anti-white racism and did not think about racism at all when touring the campus in 2015. The students I met treated me with respect, and remarked with smiles and happiness when I told them I would be joining them as a Dawg the following fall. In the back of my mind, I knew racism existed but didn’t think that I would see it so out in the open as we all did on Twitter and national news this past week.

Many commenters have stated that they are not surprised. I am ashamed of that, but I am more angered by the fact that they expect racism to happen in the South simply because it is the South. Yes, we have a history of racism, bigotry, disenfranchisement, slavery, and other horrible, unspeakable things but so does the rest of the United States. This problem is not limited to the South alone. It involves all of us, an entire nation of peoples that need to learn to do better.

I consider myself an ally. I try to listen twice as often as I speak. I try to do my own research on racial issues so as to not put the burden entirely on people of color to explain their problems to me. But I know I am not doing enough. As a young adult I’ve seen the Black Lives Matter movement, Baltimore, Charlottesville, and now members of UGA TKE posting racist videos joking about slavery on the internet. After each event I have reevaluated what I am doing to be an ally. Yesterday, during a conversation with one of the student organization executive boards I am a part of, I asked what more I could do. My advisor responded “you can do more by asking that question of yourself every single day.” That hit me harder than I thought it would, because it doesn’t only apply to race but to being an ally for all. You can always do more, be more, listen more, educate more. There is always something more to do even if you think you’re doing enough.

My Life: October

October was crazy. I had three weeks of midterms, Delta Gamma Initiation, Homecoming, Delta Gamma Low Country Boil, Will’s 21st birthday, my mom’s birthday, and my roommate’s 21st birthday. It has been a month. But there’s only one thing left: Halloween! Whether or not I’ll actually celebrate is still undecided, but we’ll get there when we get there.

I went to the State Botanical Gardens of Georgia at the beginning of the month to complete a biology scavenger hunt. This was one of the required pictures I had to take.

Botanical Gardens

My little and grandlittle at Initiation

DG Initiation 2017

My parents came down for my Homecoming, the UGA v Mizzu football game

The Marshalls at UGA v Mizzu

During Homecoming week, coffee was a must

Coffee

I got to participate in Dawg Walk with the cheerleaders and football players

UGA Cheerleaders

Here’s the 2017 Homecoming Committee and Court!

Homecoming Committee and Court

And here I am on the jumbotron with the UGA President, the Homecoming Director, and the 2016 Homecoming King and Queen

Me on the UGA Jumbotron

We all saw my pumpkin patch fun in this post from the other day

Milledge Baptist Pumpkin Patch

A snap of me in the Fine Arts theater building after work one day

Lazy Day Work Outfit

A friend from outside my GA house

Georgia lizzard

 

I went home for fall break and look how much the leaves have changed!

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An “early” morning sun

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I walked to Starbucks and passed the building I (as a small child) wanted to live in when I grew up

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Home wouldn’t be the same without Chocolate!

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My tomato plants from this summer finally made tomatoes! And then were promptly killed by yesterday’s snowfall…

Baby tomatoes

Happy Halloween!

Beary Scary Halloween

xo Bailey

Favorite Fall Things Right Now

I’m so excited that fall is finally here! And with fall comes UGA Homecoming! I don’t think I could ever express how thankful I am for all the opportunities the University of Georgia has given me. I’ve participated in Homecoming every single year of college. Last year I was the Community Outreach Chair, and this year I get to oversee all of Homecoming Court.

The University of Georgia has also given me the Arch Society. Not only have I found many of my close friends through Arch, I’ve gotten to meet some of the smartest, most driven individuals of my age. I am constantly amazed by their curiosity, selflessness, and intellect. Below are a few photos from our dinner at the President’s house. Arch President's House

While I don’t really enjoy football, getting to work the games with the Arch Society is a thrill. I may not know who all the players are but I certainly love the Dawg Nation spirit!

Fall also means getting my grand little!

And who would I be if I didn’t mention something from Target’s current dollar spot section? Of course it was love at first sight with this Hocus Pocus inspired candle!

Hocus Pocus Candle

Now that the weather is finally cooling down (okay, so, it’s still mid to upper 70’s in Athens…we’ll just go ahead and count it as “cooling down”) I can drink tea throughout the day without being hot and sweaty on both the outside and the inside. I really like drinking Throat Coat tea when the Freshman Plague rolls around. I get sick easily, and it always ends up involving my throat, so this tea really helps decrease the inflammation and irritation caused by both allergies and sickness. Plus each tea bag comes with a little inspirational quote! How cute.

Inspirational Tea Quote

Last but certainly not least, I’m excited to finally be able to wear boots again. These are my current favorites: Lucky Brand black booties.

Lucky Brand Black Booties

Back ATH It!

Junior year is really happening, y’all, and I can’t even begin to tell you how amazing this past week has been. I moved into my house on the 7th and started recruitment for Delta Gamma the very next day at 7 am! After that, it’s been a whirlwind.

Last year I did a post about my room in the Delta Gamma house with pictures of how I decorated. I didn’t make one this year because I’m still trying to unpack all my stuff. Let me know in the comments section below if you’d like another room decor post!

So back to recruitment. This year I recruited every single round. To say that I’m exhausted is an understatement. Not only do I love sharing the joy my sisters bring me year round, I love being able to goof off in between rounds and get to know all my sweet UGA DG’s even better. This year I had the most amazing bump group (mainly because I got to recruit with my little Rachel!).


Below is a photo of my pledge class from last year’s bid day. I can’t wait to meet all my new sisters on the lawn tomorrow night!

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Last night I did something very, very special. I volunteered with the Arch Society, as well as five other student orgs vital to the university, to help make freshman welcome a reality. The freshmen at the University of Georgia have the opportunity to walk into Stanford Stadium and take pictures on the field. They are welcomed by their orientation leaders, the Redcoat Marching Band, the SGA president, Kirby Smart the head football coach, and President Morehead. I passed out waters and cleaned up trash with my DG sister Stacy.

There’s definitely nothing like being back in Athens. Go Dawgs! 

Happy Homecoming!

Homecoming week is this week at the University of Georgia. I’ve been on the Homecoming Committee for 10 months now, so I helped plan and set up most of the events going on around campus. I’m so excited to see the looks on students’ and alumni’s faces when they walk into the stadium on Saturday afternoon for the football game. It’s going to be such a surprise!

Moving Into Sorority Row

Hey y’all! Things have been craaaaazy busy in my life as of late. But, good news! I moved into the Delta Gamma sorority house at the University of Georgia!

I’m already loving living with my sisters. They’ve been super great all through our hectic song practice schedules. We even had an alum from LA fly in to give a lecture on the purpose of recruitment! How neat is that?

So I bet you’re all dying to see what my dorm looks like…

Delta Gamma Bedspread

How cute is this?! My wonderful big made me the two canvases (the red says “glory glory to ole Georgia” and the black says “& if not He is still good Daniel 3:18”) and my mom got me the “on my mind” Georgia wall hanging.

similar wall hanging // Christmas lights // text pillow (obsolete) // comforter // back rest

Delta Gamma Sorority House Room

This is my roommate’s side of the room. And that’s her fish, Fitz, on top of my dresser!

my desk at Delta Gamma Delta Iota chapter

Last but not least, here is my desk, where I will probably be spending a majority of my time. Note my Betta fish, Tetra, and my moss ball, Marimo.  Hopefully I’ll be able to do a tad bit more decorating before school starts on the 11th (the walls look a little bare, don’t they?) 🙂

desk organizer // piggy bank // French Bulldog tape dispenser // lamp

Comment below if you want any room updates from life at the Delta Gamma house!

xo Bailey